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Orpheus in Texas
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69 Saeed Jones Per haps I am being pre sump tu ous when I as sume that every gay man has a com pli cated re la tion ship with the idea of father hood. The word makes me look over my shoul der, ex pect ing my father to be there, arms crossed and wait ing for a good an swer. He’s prob ably smil ing, know ing ex actly how much it ir ri tates me: that in ap pro pri ately bright grin. To bring poetry and the no tion of in flu ence into the room sets a spark in me. While I write here, in this burn ing room, I want to tell you about my father, the way his ab sence has fathered my poems and why I think Or pheus might be to blame. The first song Or pheus taught me was about re gret. I can not re mem ber the last time I saw my father, only that—in the months be fore his dis ap pear ance—I took to tell ing any one who would lis ten that he was no longer my father. He had dis ap pointed me too many times in my four teen years alive, I’d say. (Hours spent by the liv ing room win dow, my eyes ris ing to meet every pass ing car that was not his. His gift for walk ing into the room im me di ately after the recital’s con clu sion, the school play’s last line. I’m sorry I’m late. How were you?) And any way, he had re mar ried and started a new fam ily. I would tell peo ple that the de ci sion was mine: I didn’t want him to be my father any more. Or pheus in Texas Saeed Jones 70 I can not re mem ber how peo ple re sponded to such a state ment. How fool ish I must have looked in front of them: a pet u lant teen ager angry his father was not meet ing his ex pec ta tions. That was the na ture of my con ver sa tions with and about him in the weeks be fore he went on a busi ness trip and did not re turn. Only in my thol ogy does there seem to exist such a per fect equi lib rium between an ill-conceived ac tion and ap pro pri ate con se quence. Arachne, far too proud of her work at the loom, is turned into a spi der. Acteon, the un for tu nate hunter who hap pens upon Ar te mis bath ing in a grotto, is turned into a deer and at tacked by his own hounds. A boy tells every one he knows that he does not want a father any more and his father dis ap pears. Here is what I do re mem ber: Late night, a phone call from my grand mother, the re ceiver sticky in my sweaty palm, re mem ber ing— even then—that he al ways had sweaty palms, and lis ten ing but not under stand ing the words leav ing my grandmother’s fraught mouth. I did not know he had gone on a busi ness trip just be fore Thanks giv ing. All I knew was that he had not both ered to call me for my fif teenth birth day. “He didn’t come back, Saeed. We’ve called all the hos pi tals and filed a re port.” Guilt sharp ens the senses, crys tal lizes every frag ment of the mo ment: the soles of my feet sink ing into car pet while I try to focus on each word, my mother watch ing me (and not under stand ing yet) from the other side of the room, the way the phone fi nally slips from my sweat-slick hand, the fact that it is not rain ing out side but should have been. I cried like a boy who knew ex actly what he was being pun ished for. In retrospect, it feels a bit too clever to say I started writ ing poems around this time. And though I am sus pi cious of the idea that a writer’s life can be ex plained by one in ci dent, that phone call and the weeks that be came years of...