Asa Bambir (age 34, executive assistant): 1 In New York I saw more of this butch-femme thing and I was a little floored by it, a little shocked, like why do people have to play these roles?... But at the same time I looked at it in awe because there was a part of my childhood when I really liked wearing boyish clothes, but I never did.... So, I was very intrigued by it, and I think over the years I’ve just been allowing that to surface. I really do like wearing boyish clothes. Were you drawn to women who were more feminine looking or less feminine looking? I was definitely drawn to women who were feminine looking, very feminine looking.

Lynn Witherspoon (age 33, corporate attorney): When I first started to come out... it was interesting because I had this type that I was attracted to, and yet when I was going out I was always attracting the more butch looking women. And I was like,“Oh, I’m carrying this purse,” and all of these other things, you know, all these things you do in the straight community. So I had to change the way I dressed, and I stopped carrying a purse, and I was able to find women who I was more attracted to, to go out with. When I first came out I was wearing makeup; I stopped wearing makeup.