Exploring Forgiveness

Index

INDEX Acting: from a rule, 37; in accordance with a rule, 37 Mfair: infidelity and the forgiveness process, 83,90 African Americans: the national crime of slavery, 146 Al-Mabuk, R., 52, 59 Anderson, D. C., 116 Anger: during forgiveness, 20, 84, 91; and God, 40, 42, 93; and therapy, 52, 53,70, 72, 79, 84; danger of expression, 64; defined, 64; denial of, 64; expression, 64; passive-aggressive, 64; varieties ofexpression, 64; measured, 68; misconceptions, 68; intensity related to forgiveness, 70, 79, 91; depression, 72; eating disorders, 72; related to clinical diagnoses, 72; attacks, 73; in clinical disorders of attention deficity/hyperacitvity disorder, 73; conscious anger, 77; at one's parents, 85-87; appropriate and inappropriate, 86; displacement onto spouse, 87; at God, 88,93; as a precursor to guilt, 93. See also Guilt Anxiety, 58, 71 Apology: police department example, 125-27; as a disciplinary tool, 127 Arafat, Yasir, 160 Arendt, H., 132 Assumptive sets: degrees of damage, 102; relationship to forgiveness, 102 Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder, 73 Axelrod, R., 82 Baretoot, J. C., 71 Beavers, W. R., 91 Bergin, A., 53 Billings, A. G., 96 Bitburg Cemetery: visit of Ronald Reagan, 1985,137-43 Bloomfield, H., 89 Bonhoeffer, D., 135, 147 Bound to Forgive, 7 Buddhism, 7 Buddhist cosmology: central causes of suffering are ignorance, attachment, hatred, 158; wisdom and compassion overcome suffering, 158 Buddhist-Hindu cosmology: no process of divine forgiveness, Law of Karma punishes and rewards individuals' actions, 158 Bundestag: President von Weizsacker's speech to, 1985,141-43 Bush, George, 144 Cardis, P., 59 Casarjian, R., 51 Childhood: hurts that impede forgiveness, 86--87 Children: poor, 124 Civil War: United States, 160 Clausewitz, Karl von, 131, 132 Clinical considerations, 104--5 Clinton, Bill, 144 Close, H. T., 53 Coleman, P., 6, 47, 82, 95, 98; forgiveness offers love to betrayer, five phases of forgiveness, 154 Confrontation: as a step toward forgiving, 89-90 Couper, D., 6; institutions and nations should ask forgiveness for their mistakes, 156 Crime: matching punishment to, 41; as failed relationships, 126 Crime control: "big lies," 128-29 187 188 Criminal justice: children, 124; rehabilitation, 125; prisoners, 125-26 Criminal justice developments, 106,113, ll5 Cunningham, B. B., 53 Dalai Lama: supports study offorgiveness, 159 Index Davis, W. T.: on Vietnam veterans, 145-48 Death penalty: arguments against, 125 Depression: psychological, 58, 71 Determinism, 36 Dickey, W., 6, 123; forgiveness plays role in restorative justice, victim-offender reconciliation meetings, 154-55 Disconnectedness, Il6, Il7 Discretion, 113, 114 Dower, J. W.: on the Pacific War, 144 Downie, R. S., 47 Droll, D. M., 53 Dryden, D., 51 Elder, J., 7 Ellis, A., 51 Emotional reactivity: how to lessen, 91 Empathy, 7 Enright, N., 8 Enright, R. D., 5, 7, 17,21,24,39,46,47, 55,58,59,63,65,66,67,68,71,72,73, 107,151; process model offorgiveness, 52-54 Episcopal Church, 121 Erikson, E., 57 Evil, 27-28 Expressive justice, Il6 Faulkner, William, 137 Fava, M. J., 72 FBI, 10-11 Feelings: negative, 38 Figley, C., 88 Fitzgibbons, R., 6,47, 64; three levels in process of forgiveness, healing power of forgiveness, 154 Flanigan, B., 6, 24, 53, 82, 87, 96, 99, 100; limited forgiveness and full forgiveness, intrafamily therapists urged to accept varying degrees offorgiveness, 152 Forgiveness: what it is not, xiv, 16, 17, 48-49,78,79; terminology in the book discussed, 7-8; Hebrew and Christian ideas, 13; defined, 16, 18,46-49,65, 79, 121, 133-34; and self-esteem, 19, 40, 58, 71; its active nature, 20; its moral quality, 20, 38, 47; willed change of heart, 20; stages, 21-24; desire to forgive, 22; duty to forgive, 22; personal and impersonal claims, 22; Christian ideas, 27; impossibility offorgiveness, 27; its multiperspectival nature, 29; acceptance of, 29-34; spontaneous, 35; conditions of, 35-38; and determination, 36; and freedom, 36-37; components of, 38; psychological interest in, 38, 39; divine, 40, 42; its relationship to revenge and punishment, 42; reconciliation and, 4445 ; distinct from accepting or tolerating, 47; distinct from ceasing to be angry, 48; distinct from condoning or excusing, 48; distinct from legal pardon, 48-49; false or pseudoforgiveness, 49; skeptics' views, 49-50; distinct from reconciliation, 49, 136; related to justice, 50, 79; phases, 52-55,87-94, 151; and therapy, 52-58, 67-72,87-94, 103-105; distinct from forgetting, 58; benefits of, 58-59, 72, 78; model, 64; cognitive, 65; its effect on anger, 65; methods of forgiveness...