Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and Intimacy

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Index 221 Index 221 access and eroticism, 174–77 and feminism, 182–84 and intimacy, 171–72 risk-trust-access cycle, 177–80, 182–84 and SM play, 172–74 and violence, 174–80, 209n6 aftercare, 76, 85, 87, 151 Anderson, Leon, 187 androgyny, 29–30, 36, 106–107, 118, 185 Athens, Lonnie, 129 authenticity authenticity of experience, 71–74, 139–40 authenticity of the edges, 163–64 and badass topping, 110 and femininity, 107 marks as indicators of, 73 and safewords, 70 SM interactions as, 61 strategies for, 61, 64–65, 71, 108, 137 and violence, 130–31 auto-ethnography, 15–16 autotelic pain, 139 backhanding, 145, 193 badass bottoming, 112–13, 115, 117, 208n5:4 badass topping, 109–110, 114–15 “BDSM” term, 18–19 Becker, Howard, 20, 45 benevolent dictatorship, 110–11, 114–15 blades/knives. See knife play blood, 73, 92, 125, 128, 153, 166, 184 blood play, 73, 86, 152–54 body, the, 15, 26–29 body modification, 18, 110, 149 bondage, 18–19, 84, 179–80. See also rope bottoming defined, 19, 78 badass bottoming, 112–13, 115, 117, 208n5:4 communication strategies for, 77, 87, 100 and competence, 88–89, 93–94 and creativity, 33, 51–52, 55, 185–86 and edgework, 156–59 and efficacy, 92–93 flow experience in, 96–97, 190–92 and gender performance, 10, 12–13, 108, 114, 117, 208n5:2, 208n7 martyrdom bottoming, 111–12, 114 and “masochist” term, 78 and pain, 135, 137, 140 and personal growth, 94 and power exchange, 73–74 and risk, 182 service bottoming, 100, 112, 114 222 Index and social status, 99–101, 115, 147–48 and spanking, 197–98 and toughness/strength, 94 and trust, 161–62 See also dominant/submissive; D/s boundaries, 144–49, 148–54, 163 breath play, 86, 133, 144–46, 150, 156–57 Butler, Judith, 107–108, 119 Califia, Patrick, 72, 127 caning, 70, 135–36, 139, 196 collaborative edgework, 160 collars, 70 Collins, Randall, 128–29, 131 community burnout, 98 in Caeden, 7–8, 42–43 definitions of, 41–42 as home, 52, 55, 101 inclusion criteria, 44–46 scene names as community identities, 62 social status in, 99–101, 115, 147–48 validation of marginal identity in, 37–38, 46–47 See also SM community competence, 93–94 connection. See access; intimacy Connell, R. W., 29, 119 consent and collaborative edgework, 163–65 in definition of SM, 18 and edgework, 149–50 and false consciousness, 177–78 and power exchange, 72, 76 RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), 147 and spanking, 196 SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual), 146–47, 154 and symbolic violence, 127–30 and trust, 91 and victimization, 114, 127, 197 and violence, 131–34, 142–43 creativity, 33, 51–52, 55, 185–86 Csíkszentmihályi, Mihály, 95–96, 102 danger. See edgeplay; edgework; risk; safety; safewords; violence Dean, Tim, 171 death and boundary transgression, 159, 181 and edgework, 147, 149, 155, 157, 159, 163–64 and emotional edgework, 184 and murder, 176 Denzin, Norman, 16, 187 discipline, 18–19 discovery narratives, 43–44, 54 dominant/submissive defined, 19, 72, 205n7 gender distribution of, 10, 13 policing of identity of, 78–79, 93 and power exchange, 71 and service topping, 111 and social status, 100 top/bottom compared with, 78, 104–105 See also bottoming; D/s; topping Donnelly, Peter, 154, 156–57, 184 D/s (Dominance/submission) authenticity of experience in, 71–74 and efficacy, 92 pain discourses in, 137–38, 142 and power, 19, 69–73 role definition in, 64, 70–71 and social status, 100 See also bottoming; dominant/ submissive; topping edgeplay, 147–54, 156–59 edgework defined, 147–48 and boundaries, 150–51 collaborative edgework, 159–61, 163–65, 181 as embodied, 157 emotional edgework, 163, 184 Index 223 and ethics, 148–50 and gender, 155–61, 163 and intimacy, 180–83, 185–86 as masculinist, 154–56 effectiveness, 92–93 efficacy, 92–93 eroticism and access, 186 desexualization of the erotic, 68 as distinct from sex, 68, 126–27 and ethnography, 194–95 and geekiness, 31–32 heteronormative eroticism, 86, 175–76, 182 power as component of, 74, 118 at public vs. private events, 14 and violence, 126–30, 142–43 See also sexuality essentialism (as identity practice), 38, 47, 49–50, 54 ethics, 126, 148–50 ethnography and bottoming, 78–79, 207n10 Caeden fieldwork experiences, 11–14 and confidentiality, 17–18 and...