Walking Backwards, and: Thinking about Death

Walking Backwards

You notice them on campuses in early April, the maître d'sOf the future showing customers to their tables. It looks so hopeful:Come join me, realize your dreams here in this library, this gym,These classrooms where you can study Shakespeare or Peter Drucker

And above all Begin. And then of course it peters out: Is thisWhat you wanted to do, how you wanted to live, who you wanted to be?I'm a sucker for regrets and retrospective disappointments, as inMerrily We Roll Along, which begins with a tell-it-like-it-is cynicism

And works backwards to an optimism so naïve it makes you cry.Sometimes I think I overdo it. If the point of disenchantmentIs to make clear how literal life is, and how contingentEven moments of transcendence are, there should be nothing to fear

From the future, even as years go by and nothing happensAnd one wish supplants another with a dying fall. And there isn't:Business used to be as dubious a major as history or English,People muddled through to law school or advertising or Wall Street

And then wondered what had happened. There's somethingComforting about rituals renewed, even adolescents' pipe dreams:They'll find out soon enough, and meanwhile find their placesIn the eternal scenery, less auguries or cautionary tales

Than parts of an unchanging whole, as ripe for contemplationAs a planisphere or the clouds: the vexed destinies, the shared life,The sempiternal spectacle of someone preaching to a choirWhile walking backwards in the moment on a warm spring afternoon.

Thinking about Death

I am not thinking of Death, but Death is thinking of me.
—Mark Strand

In memoriam

Lucretius has an unconvincing argumentFor why death doesn't matter, since I won't existWhen it occurs. No, goes the rejoinder, it does,For it deprives me of a life I would have hadAnd probably would have loved—a rejoinderI find hard to comprehend. It looks at lifeAs though it's there to lose, like a sense of humorOr a book, instead of something that eventually has to end,Although its ending, from the inside, makes no sense.I am my world. (The microcosm.)—Wittgenstein.I'm not sure I understand that either, yet it resonates with me:What ceases to exist isn't the private singularity—A single consciousness detached from its surroundings—But a whole milieu with which it coincides, that dies with it.I remember lying on a couch one Sunday thirty years agoWhen this way of thinking about death took hold of me.I'm a realist philosophically: the world of all that is the caseIs no one's, while the world of my experience is my own.I can't pretend to find the right emotion: bewilderment or terror,Fear, a sense of wonderment, regret—they all seem credibleAnd insufficient, meant for things that happen in a life,Though not its end. Most thoughts of death feel fake:They focus on the I, instead of what that individual seesFrom its miraculous and commonplace perspective—Ordinary days that gradually become an open-ended storyIn the present, important for the sake of whose it is.I used to think that all those stories were alikeIn everything but their details, and not worth telling.Now I think they differ in their tone, and tone is everything:Tone makes their unavoidable conclusions human,And their narratives without a moral seem to have one.The thoughts of death that move me aren't articulate—they'reMoments when the self looks in the mirror of its world And senses that it's going to disappear, in all of its particularity.I find it hard to get upset about that loss—it's simply stuff,Albeit my stuff: breakfast and the morning newspaper, the mail,The random sounds that find their order as the day goes on,The faces lingering in a certain light. What's harderIs the thought that...