Aunting: Cultural Practices That Sustain Family and Community Life

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219 index abuse, 60–61 adolescence, 16, 28–30, 93–94, 100, 111, 136–37, 157, 181–82, 187n13, 192n15, 198n25, 199n6 affection, 12, 35, 44, 52, 54–55, 66, 72, 81–91, 95, 98, 109, 121, 131–33, 159–60, 172, 176, 188–89n26, 192nn20–21, 193n23 African Americans, 12, 15, 22–23, 29, 34–35, 50, 58, 81, 87–88, 104–5, 115, 118–21, 127–28, 134–35, 141, 180, 187n11 altruism, 91, 157, 193n23 Asian Americans, 11, 18–19, 27, 41, 46, 56, 69, 105, 113, 116–19, 139, 162–63, 180–81, 190n18 asynchronous communication (e-mail, Facebook, etc.), 27, 45–46, 67, 77, 114, 170 Aunts and Uncles Program, 188n19 biolegal family, 4–5, 12, 24–25, 38, 40, 44, 50–51, 59–62, 72, 173–75 blended families, 2, 11, 51–55, 79–80, 174, 186n1 Bould, Sally, 187n13; cited, 1, 22 “calabash aunties,” 12, 56–57, 113–14; see also chosen family or kin care, caregiving, and caretaking, 1–2, 6, 11–12, 15–39, 41, 43, 57–58, 87–88, 98–99, 112, 117, 122–23, 136–38, 144, 154–63, 166, 169, 171–75, 185–86n10, 187n11, 188n19, 188–89n26, 193n23, 196n5 caring neighborhoods, 22, 187n13 Catholics, 12, 41, 164–67, 174, 194n21 chauffeuring or carpooling, 17–19, 22 childcare, 1, 6, 16–17, 19–23, 28–30, 37, 42, 166, 186n4, 187n11, 187n13 220 INDEX children as centers of attention, 84–85, 192n19 chosen family or kin, 2, 5, 12, 20, 22–25, 39–40, 43–44, 50–63, 72, 113–15, 120–23, 154, 164, 171–74, 186n12, 187n13, 190n21; see also “calabash aunties” civility, 116–17, 192n18; see also politeness college, 10–11, 16–17, 19–20, 25–31, 45–46, 54, 77, 86, 93, 103, 113–15, 118–19, 124, 134–35, 144, 181–82, 188n20, 191n2; see also education community, 1, 6, 8–9, 12–13, 17, 20, 22, 25, 36, 46, 49–52, 55–58, 61, 142, 144–45, 150, 153–54, 157, 163–64, 167, 169–72, 175, 177, 179, 188n19, 190n19, 196n21, 196n5 conversation, 3, 41, 46, 68, 74, 88–89, 91–95, 103, 112, 150–52, 159, 193n25, 197n8 Coontz, Stephanie, 186n2; cited, 3, 6, 8, 36, 182 Davis-Sowers, Regina Louise, cited, 28–29 deviation from conventions, 3, 61, 85–86, 95, 126–31, 139 di Leonardo, Micaela, cited, 16, 36–37, 102, 151, 198n33 dichotomous or either/or thinking, 173, 199n2 divorce, 2, 5, 11, 28, 53–55, 74, 79–83, 86, 100, 154, 166, 180, 186n1 drug addiction, 11, 28–29, 86, 181 Duck, Steve, 106, 194n15 East Indian Americans, 104, 142, 180 eccentricities, 85–86, 127, 131–35 education, 9, 33, 35, 118–19, 127, 137, 139, 144–45, 164; see also college Ellingson, Laura, and Patricia Sotirin, cited, 5, 9, 195n16 enfamilied self, 194n1 European Americans, 9, 12, 19, 21, 23, 30–33, 39–40, 45–46, 48, 54, 65, 68–70, 73, 75–77, 79–80, 84–87, 89–91, 93–94, 100, 107, 110–11, 115, 120, 125, 130, 132–35, 139–43, 149, 153, 155, 157–61, 165–66, 169, 180, 188–89n26 expectancy violation theory, 192n20 face-saving, 192n18, 193–94n14 face-to-face interaction, 45–47, 66–67, 72, 77, 91, 176 fairness, 72, 89–91, 95, 192–93n22; see also justice family history, 137, 149–54, 172, 197n8, 197n12, 197nn14–15 family homes and neighborhoods, 153, 197n15 family storytelling, 7, 126–27, 131–32, 149–54, 157–62, 171–72, 195n17, 197n8 femininity, 6, 36–37, 126–27, 130–36, 141, 146, 151, 154, 171, 173–74, 177, 182, 190n21 feminism, 3, 9, 37, 62, 157, 182, 194n3, 195n11, 195nn15–16, 200nn8–9 feminist mentoring or “wo-mentoring ,” 138, 195nn15–16 Folbre, Nancy, 157, 193n23 frequency of contact, 15, 66–71, 176, 191n7, 191–92n8 Friedman, Marilyn, 61–62 INDEX 221 gender, 25, 36–37, 69, 100, 102, 125, 127, 133, 139, 142, 146, 172–75, 182, 190n21, 191n25, 193n4, 193–94n14, 199n36, 200n9 generativity, 150–65, 196n21, 196n3, 196n5, 198n26; see also “paying forward” genogram, 154–55 Gergen, Kenneth, 192n17, 200n9; cited, 9, 182 Gerstel, Naomi, and Sally K. Gallagher, cited, 37, 39 gifts, 6, 59, 70, 85–89, 97–103, 158–59, 192n20 godmothers, 12, 35–36, 44, 50, 54, 150, 158, 164–68, 199n37 gossip, 47–48, 136, 150–52, 171 graduations, 26, 41, 88...