Hmong and American: Negotiating Identity, Community, and Culture

7. “There are no GLBT Hmong people”: Hmong American Young Adults Navigating Culture and Sexuality

“There are no glbt Hmong people” Hmong American Young Adults Navigating Culture and Sexuality Bic ngo The people who weren’t accepting just repeated the myth that Hmong people have about glbt people. For example, that there are no glbt Hmong people and that it was only when we came to the U.S. that we learned from the white people how to be glbt. Ong My involvement with the Hmong American community began in the late 1990s with an employment position at a Hmong social service agency. In my day-to-day interactions with coworkers and participants in our youth and adult education programs, I learned about the social and cultural contexts of the lives of Hmong Americans. My immersion in the Hmong Americancommunitywasalso facilitatedbymyparticipationinhomevisits , donation drives for new refugees, soccer and volleyball tournaments, and Hmong New Year celebrations. This engagement with the Hmong American community highlighted for me the central role of gender in the lives of Hmong American women and men. Issues related to gender role expectations, early marriage, and the implications for education and aspirations were frequent themes of conversation at work. The news media reflected this concern in another way, with stories about domestic violence and underage marriage in the Hmong American community. These stories frequently emphasized perspectives on and practices of gender issues as related to the assumed traditional values and customs of Hmong culture. Yet, my conversations with Hmong American youth and adults belied such easy explanations; they pointed instead to struggles over gender identity within social relations. In recent years, research has demonstrated the salience of gender in the experiences of Hmong American youth and adults. For example, researchers have illuminated the experiences of Hmong American women who Bic Ngo choose education over marriage; the social stigma young married women experiencefromnon-Hmongpeersandteachers;andpracticesofmasculinityamongHmongAmericanyouthwhichhaveresultedinantischoolbehav iors . Along with these researchers, my own work has examined the role of gender in the educational experiences of Hmong American students.1 Despite these important contributions toward understanding cultural transitions within the Hmong American community, Hmong Americans are still characterized as traditional and patriarchal. More than thirty-five years after Hmong refugees began to arrive in the United States, news stories still cast Hmong culture as singularly traditional and backward. For example, in 2005 a Minneapolis Star Tribune article highlighting Hmong American gang violence asserted that a Hmong American female rape victimdidnotreporttheassaultbecause “shefearedherculturewouldrequire her to marry one of her attackers to save her reputation.” The journalists argued that struggles between Hmong American youth and parents were due to irreconcilable differences between Hmong and American cultures: “The problem comes in mixing Hmong traditions with American culture. While Hmong refugees are struggling to survive in a culture foreign to them, their children are adapting more quickly and disobeying what they see as their parents’ antiquated rules.”2 In a similar vein, a Fresno Bee special series called attention to several suicides among Hmong teenagers and underscored the tensions between Hmong parents and youth. In one of eight stories, the journalist explicated the circumstances behind the suicide of a Hmong lesbian couple. According to the reporter, the “lesbian couple committed suicide together, knowing their love would never be accepted by their families or the Hmong community, which strictly forbids homosexual relationships.” Once again, Hmongcultureand identityareportrayedasirreconcilablytraditionaland suspended in time.3 In different ways, both of these news stories make sense of the experiences of Hmong American youth and adults through an understanding of theclashbetweenHmongandAmericancultures.Here,theculturalimplications surrounding sexual assault and the suicides among gay teenagers are sensationalized as events that only occur in Hmong families. Such stories also ignore the multiple generations, perspectives, and complexities in the Hmong American community. They obscure experiences of struggle that signify cultural transformation. “There are no GLBT Hmong people” In addition to the propensity to portray Hmong culture as unitary and static, we still lack knowledge about the multiple ways that Hmong Americans are transforming gender and sexuality. In particular, we do not know about the experiences of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered (glbt) Hmong Americans. Indeed, with few exceptions, little research has covered the experiences of glbt Asian Americans and no research has been published about glbt Hmong Americans. The few studies on glbt Asian American students reveal that at school, students face racism, homophobia ,andheterosexism.Athome,relationshipsbetweenglbtyouthandparents are imbued with fear and conflict. As Joan Varney cogently observes, “In Asian communities where heterosexuality is assumed and in queer communities that are predominately...