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Going to a Meal Without Being Invited Is Deemed Rude
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19 Going to a Meal Without Being Invited Is Deemed Rude 33 The judge Abu ‘Umar al-Qasim ibn Ja‘far ibn ‘Abd al-Wahid al-Hashimi told us in Basra, Abu ‘Ali Muhammad ibn Ahmad ibn ‘Amr al-Lu’lu’i told us, Abu Dawud Sulayman ibn al-Ash‘ath told us (or ‘Ali ibn Ahmad ibn ‘Umar al-Muqri’ told us, Muhammad ibn ‘Abd Allah al-Shafi‘i told us, Mu‘adh ibn alMuthanna told us), and they both said, Musaddad told us, Durust ibn Ziyad told us on the authority of Aban ibn Tariq, Nafi‘ related to me in the hadith of Abu Dawud on the authority of Nafi‘, ‘Abd Allah ibn ‘Umar said: The Prophet of God said, “Whosoever receives an invitation and does not respond defies God The Art of Party-Crashing 20 and his messenger. Whosoever enters a feast uninvited enters a thief and leaves a looter.” This hadith is transmitted only through Nafi‘ Mawla ibn ‘Umar Aban ibn Tariq on the authority of Aban Durust ibn Ziyad.1 41 Al-Hasan ibn Abu Bakr told us, Da‘laj ibn Ahmad ibn Da‘laj al-Mu‘addal told us, Musa ibn Harun told us, Abu ‘Uthman, who is Sa‘id ibn ‘Amr, told us, Baqiya told us, Yahya ibn Khalid related to me on the authority of Ruh ibn al-Qasim on the authority of al-Maqburi on the authority of ‘Urwa on the authority of ‘A’isha, and she said: The messenger of God, peace and prayers upon him, said, “He who enters a party of feasters to which he wasn’t invited and eats enters wickedly and eats that which is forbidden.” 1. See anecdote 145, in which this hadith and one of its transmitters, Durust ibn Ziyad, become the subject of a heated debate at a party. [3.236.111.234] Project MUSE (2024-03-19 10:17 GMT) Going to a Meal Without Being Invited 21 45 The judge Abu al-‘Ala’ Muhammad ibn ‘Ali ibn Ya‘qub al-Wasiti told us, ‘Ali ibn ‘Amr ibn Ahmad al-Hafiz told us, Abu al-‘Abbas ‘Abd Allah ibn Ahmad al-Dimashqi told us, Ibn Ramadan told us, I heard Muhammad ibn ‘Abd Allah ibn alHakam say: Eat Dates The Art of Party-Crashing 22 I was at al-Shafi‘i’s house when a man who worked for the police came in. Shafi‘i had a plateful of dates in front of him. The policeman pulled them over and ate every last one. Then he said, “Hey, Shafi‘i! What’s your legal opinion on the unexpected guest?” “You should have asked that question when the dates were still here!” Shafi‘i replied.2 46 Al-Khatib says:3 If a man has a friend whose wife approves of him, and his integrity is not in doubt, then he is allowed to go eat with his friend uninvited, provided that the friend wishes him to, and does not find his presence distasteful, but rather hopes for it. 2. Shafi‘i (d. 820) was a famous jurist, after whom was named the Shafi‘i branch of Islamic law. 3. Here al-Khatib provides his opinion on the unexpected guest, as Shafi‘i was too miffed to supply his own in the preceding anecdote. [3.236.111.234] Project MUSE (2024-03-19 10:17 GMT) Going to a Meal Without Being Invited 23 47 The origin of that is as Abu Bakr Ahmad ibn ‘Umar al-Dallal told us, that ‘Abd al-Samad ibn ‘Ali ibn Muhammad ibn Mukarram al-Tasti told us by dictation , Ahmad ibn ‘Ubayd Allah ibn Idris al-Nursi told us, ‘Ubayd Allah ibn Musa told us, Shaban told us on the authority of ‘Abd al-Malik ibn ‘Umayr on the authority of Abu Salama on the authority of Abu Hurayra: The messenger of God went outside at an hour that no one usually goes out and in which you never meet anybody, but then Abu Bakr came up to him. “What brings you out, Abu Bakr?” he asked him. “I came out to meet the messenger of God and to look into his face and greet him,” he said. Then, right away, ‘Umar came along. “What brings you out, ‘Umar?” he asked. “I was hungry,” he said. “I find I feel the same way,” he replied. “So let’s take off to Abu Haytham ibn al-Tayyihan al-Ansari’s house!” He was a man who had...