Bureau of Missing Persons
Writing the Secret Lives of Fathers
Publication Year: 2011
A devoted reader of autobiographies and memoirs, Roger J. Porter has observed in recent years a surprising number of memoirs by adult children whose fathers have led secret lives. Some of the fathers had second families; some had secret religious lives; others have been criminals, liars, or con men. Struck by the intensely human drama of secrecy and deception played out for all to see, Porter explores the phenomenon in great depth. In Bureau of Missing Persons he examines a large number of these works-eighteen in all-placing them in a wide literary and cultural context and considering the ethical quandaries writers face when they reveal secrets so long and closely held.
Among the books Porter treats are Paul Auster's The Invention of Solitude, Alison Bechdel's graphic memoir Fun Home, Essie Mae Washington-Williams's Dear Senator (on her father, Strom Thurmond), Bliss Broyard's One Drop, Mary Gordon's The Shadow Man, and Geoffrey Wolff's The Duke of Deception. He also discusses Nathaniel Kahn's documentary film, My Architect. These narratives inevitably look inward to the writer as well as outward to the parent. The autobiographical children are compelled, if not consumed, by a desire to know. They become detectives, piecing together clues to fill memory voids, assembling material and archival evidence, public and private documents, letters, photographs, and iconic physical objects to track down the parent.
Published by: Cornell University Press
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John Eakin has been a constant champion of my work, and his insightful critique of the manuscript proved to be invaluable. His friendship has helped me throughout, and I, like so many other writers on Autobiography, always benefit from his sage counsel. Richard...
Introduction. The Child’s Book of Parental Deception
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When Mary Gordon sets out to learn about her long-dead father, whom she worshipped as a child and who imbued her with his devout Catholic faith, she makes a number of startling discoveries: he had a previous family of which she knew nothing, he was not Catholic at...
Chapter 1. Faith-Changing for Life
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I begin this book with a chapter on three memoirs about Holocaust survivors whose startling stories disclose their life-saving secrets. All three texts reveal that under circumstances in which one’s very identity could be a death sentence, the need to conceal that identity was absolute. Though each work is quite distinct from...
Chapter 2. Deciphering Enigma Codes
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In this chapter I group five works about fathers, but unlike those in the first chapter, these fathers were dead at the time their children wrote about them. Because the children could not interview their parents as the previous investigators did, these writers are especially aware of the dangers of misrepresentation. Because the fathers portrayed in these...
Chapter 3. The Men Who Were Not There
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Secrecy is one thing, but secrecy combined with absence is more radical still, at least as far as the children of missing fathers is concerned. There is an abiding melancholy in all four narratives in this chapter, first for the child’s missed opportunity to know the parent, then for the awakened reminder of loss as each writer engages...
Chapter 4. Becoming One’s Parent
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One of the most intriguing statements about secret lives is made by the narrator of Anton Chekhov’s well-known story, “The Lady with a Dog.” He speaks of a character who lives two lives, the first of them “open to view by—and known to—the people concerned.” This life is public and overt, comprised of...
Chapter 5. Breaking the Silence
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I began this book with a reading of three works portraying the ways imperiled Jews disguised themselves to survive. Knowing full well who they were (if they hadn’t known someone else would have told them in no uncertain terms), they elected to transform themselves for their very lives, and in one case, for life. This...
Conclusion. Freedom or Exploitation?
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I ended this study with a discussion of Bliss Broyard’s work because she may stand for an aspiration all the writers of this book express, whether overtly or not: to achieve a degree of autonomy even though they claim to have been bridled by circumstances that have made freedom dubious or difficult. As I have...
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Page Count: 224
Publication Year: 2011