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The Balkan Wall
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116 The Bal kan Wall The bor ders in the Bal kans were a le thal sign not only of di vided coun tries, di vided riv ers, lakes, snow on the moun tains, but also of the di vided souls of the peo ple. The bor ders ached . . . The bor ders stopped the flow of time for many peo ple, for fam i lies, for gen er a tions. The bor ders en slaved and de voured people’s time. Be cause of those ac cursed lines in the Bal kans we were al ways in exile. We car ried the bor ders in our very core. Every war—and wars were fre quent in the Bal kans— brought with it new bor ders along who knew which route, sev er ing the land, the fam i lies, and life it self. “Bor ders, bor ders, curse them all!” was a com mon re frain in our fam ily. When my mother first crossed one of the Balkans’ many bor ders fifty years ear lier, she could never have dreamed, could never have be lieved, that so much time would pass be fore she would re turn to her na tive coun try to see the mem bers of her fam ily who re mained there and those born since she left. There were oth ers, older than she was, who did not live to see that day. The Sta lin ist re gime of my na tive coun try, which lasted the long est of all other such re gimes and was the most con tempt ible in the Bal kans, fi nally con sid ered my mother suf fi ciently old to be no longer a po ten tial threat to im por tant state inter ests. Dur ing those years, the bor der was opened only for older peo ple, those with white hair, those whose peers on both sides of the bor der were nearly all dead, those al ready tot ter ing up to the brink of death. My father spent a long time con sid er ing whether my mother should under take such a trip at this point in her life. He knew very well that a 117 trip there would cause her greater pain than com ing home again. But there was no force that could stop my mother from mak ing this trip she needed to make in order to com plete her life. My mother had long ago crossed the bor der in her mind; now she crossed the other bor der . . . The years of half a cen tury had taken their toll. She could not get hold of her self, she could not get ac cus tomed to her na tive land. She si lently cursed her self over and over that she had ever under taken this trip. Father’s words about the curse of re turn rang true. She said to her self that it would have been bet ter, in fi nitely bet ter, if she had gone to her grave with her old dreams to con tinue her il lu sions there; per haps that would have let her see her na tive coun try and her kin more clearly. But, what happened, happened. She had to spend two months in her na tive coun try, not one day more or less. That is what was writ ten in red ink on her visa. Her close rel a tives and im me di ate fam ily who re mained there showed her the great est pos sible at ten tion. As she later told her daughters-in-law when she re turned, they held her in their arms, they washed her feet in a basin of water and dried them. It was only with great dif fi culty that my mother be came ac cus tomed to the good ness, the close ness, and the beauty that sur rounded her. She went from fam ily to fam ily. Peo ple ar rived, rel a tives from both sides. Some she rec og nized, oth ers she did not. She was soon over come with tir ed ness and wor ries. My mother, brave and strong in life, forth right among dif fer ent na tion al ities when res cu ing her fam ily, ac cus tomed to var i ous faiths and na tions, now, here, in her na tive coun try, felt...