I Can't Remember: Family Stories of Alzheimer's Disease
Publication Year: 1997
Photographs and personal narratives are woven together to show both the unpleasant and the beautiful sides of the struggle for connection between spouses and across generations. Smoller has a gift for capturing people as they interact, whether it's arguing around the kitchen table or dancing cheek to cheek.
Each family's story is different, but all four families share common pain and frustration. A highway patrolman who has early onset Alzheimer's describes what it is like to have Alzheimer's. His wife tells a parallel story of life together after hearing the diagnosis. A daughter gives the following account of her mother: "I though that it would be helpful if mother spent time in my home in Colorado. Before this visit, I was in denial, convinced that she suffered from depression and not Alzheimer's disease. ... On the plane trip to Colorado, I was brought into the stark, cold reality that Mom had Alzheimer's. She did not know where she was or where she was going. Upon arrival, she did not recognize my home, although she had visited me numerous times in the past. She tried sleeping in the bathtub the first night."
Another daughter relates that she was unaware of the onset of Alzheimer's in her mother, because her mother was such a "wonderful actress." Eventually the memory problems were no longer confined to where things belonged in the kitchen, but extended into driving off at random, driving in circles in a parking lot in the middle of the night or as much as 75 miles away from home.
I Can't Remember gives an intimate glimpse into the hearts and minds of caregivers and patients. Supportive social networks are essential for healthy life. This book provides the impetus caregivers need to develop contacts that can provide support. Smoller offers a glimpse of the frustration and losses faced by those who deal with Alzheimer's, as well as the potential to transcend those losses -- even is only for a time -- through love and hope.
Published by: Temple University Press
To speak of Alzheimer's disease, one must talk about families. The disease affects every member of the family as they confront the physical, emotional, and financial demands of caregiving. Living with Alzheimer's means watching someone you love slowly become someone else ... a person who does not recognize her children, or remember...
I was never close to my mother-in-law. Although she was warm and friendly and always bent over backwards to demonstrate how much she cared for me, I never quite believed her. At least not enough to feel completely comfortable. But we were comfortable enough with each other; neither of us wished to make waves. What for? Since we lived eight hundred miles apart, our relationship was...
A Daughter's Dilemma
Mom is eighty-six years old and is in the thitd "age of Ahheimer's disease. I first recognized a change in Mom about ten years ago when she became emotionally volatile. My dilemma is: How much responsibility do I have for Mom's care while maintaining my own family life? I am a fifty-two-year-old married woman raising three teenage...
In Jim's Own Words
Q : You were telling me what it was like for you to have AIzheimer's, yesterday. A: Oh, yesterday, yesterday. Q: Or whenever it was. A: The hardest thing in the world ... it, just drove me crazy, ah, crazy. And it was just ... and I, ah. There's times that I didn't even know where I was at. And that's what really gets me there. And, ah ... now, it's, you know, there's, there's good days and there's bad, bad days.
Jim's Wife Sherry's Story
Jim's boss was concemed that maybe Jim had a brain tumor. We both worked for the Missouri Highway Patrol. Jim began as a state trooper when he was eighteen years old. I followed after our marriage to work in the office. At age fifty-two, Jim started to show signs of something not being right. For months we went to doctor after doctor. "Well, I think it's...
My husband, Art, and I had been living in Seattle when we first suspected something was wrong with Mother. We had returned to St. Louis, where I grew up, for Christmas. When we told Mother that we would be coming, she began to plan a number of activities. She was very social. She loved company. She loved to entertain. Christmas was...
Publication Year: 1997
OCLC Number: 47009272
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