Cover

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pp. 1-1

Title Page, Copyright Page

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pp. i-ii

Contents

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pp. iii-v

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Introduction

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pp. vii-xiii

I write this book solely because of my concern for the future of over the making or ruining of the future of children (whatever the definition attached). I talk of Africa and Canada specifically but I perspective of a child that has been through it and seen it all and would not want other children to have to go through what I have had ...

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Chapter 1 - Progressing Within African Family Intricacies: Confronting the Truth about Yourself and Understanding the Problem Confronting You

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pp. 1-47

Knowing that it is not my story per se that is important here, but the lessons learnt and drawn from it, I will like to go with the story behind the lessons rather than the lessons behind the story. You cannot know yourself until you can confront the truth about yourself and also about those you deal with. If you are not afraid of your own ...

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Chapter 2 - University Education, With Or Without Money: The Fight For And In Cameroon College Of Arts And Sciences (CCAS) Kumba

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pp. 49-69

This chapter examines the fight for and in CCAS Kumba, while the next two look at the elongation of the short-cut to university; both processes being, of course, the result of the exclusionist definition of family and of child. Solomon Enomah Tatah (Solo), a bosom friend, who once described me as ‘a man of many’ must have done his ...

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Chapter 3 - The Politics of African Family Hitches Elongating Short-Cut: The Bombshell and the Roaming Days

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pp. 71-115

Half-heartedness on papa’s part has always characterized my leaving one-level to another in academic progress; and may largely belie the bombshell success. After obtaining the G.C.E. Advanced Level in the lower sixth form in August 1981, the idea was that of using Wednesday, the Yoke Market Day, to compile my file in view of ...

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Chapter 4 - Idealizing Marriage and Family: The Manjo Year, Yaoundé-Montreal effects, and Age Politics in University Education in Cameroon

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pp. 117-140

It seems to me that people with the kind of outlook on life as mine often end up with the kind of marriage mess like mine because they idealize the institutions of marriage and of family in a world where self-centredness has become the rule rather than the exception; where take and take and take has long replaced give and take. When I talk ...

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Chapter 5 - Boldness, Truthfulness, and the Marriage Decision In Africa: Intriguing Responses From A Bangwa Royal Family

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pp. 141-166

Boldness and truthfulness are two sides of the same coin and have undoubtedly been the most pronounced hallmarks of my fascination for any woman, lover or spouse. To be bold is simply not to be afraid to confront the truth. When you begin to make a distinction as to when to tell the truth, you become a liar because truthfulness knows ...

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Conclusion

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pp. 167-170

The most appropriate conclusion to this book that I would have given, given the opportunity to break virgin ground by breaking longestablished tradition, would be to ask you to begin reading again from the first page to this one; or to just repeat here that “If you are destined for greatness, the only obstacle that can prevent you from ...

References

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pp. 171-171

Back cover

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pp. 188-188