The Gender Trap
Parents and the Pitfalls of Raising Boys and Girls
Publication Year: 2012
Published by: NYU Press
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This book is about how parents navigate the complex task of managing their children’s gender, and so the first round of thanks goes to the mothers and fathers who shared their experiences with me. Some participants may agree with my analysis more than others, but I hope they all recognize the respect I feel for the hard work ...
Introduction: “Glamour Babies” and “Little Toughies”
Slogans emblazoned on baby bibs marketed by a leading retailer tell a striking tale about the gender expectations parents face as they outfit their daughters and sons. “Glamour Baby,” “Daddy’s Princess,” “Born to Shop,” “Diva,” “Hot Babe,” and “Pretty Girl” adorn the girls’ bibs versus “Wild One,” “Little Toughie,” “All Star,”...
One: Wanting a Girl, Wanting a Boy: Conceptual Building Blocks
From the earliest moment potential parents contemplate raising a child, they wander into a social landscape filled with gendered images, a key feature of the backdrop against which they eventually raise children. For that reason I began my interviews by asking the parents of preschoolers whether they had ever preferred having a son or a daughter, ...
Two: “It’s in Their Nature”: Naturalizers
Maya, a twenty-nine-year-old, low-income, African American mother raising her three children on her own, had scheduled our interview in the morning, before her office work shift began at noon and while her children were at a local day care center. We met in her small apartment, a tidy and well-organized space ...
Three: “I Think a Lot of It Is Us, Parents and Society”: Cultivators
Charles, a thirty-year-old, white, middle-class, small-business consultant, became a participant in this book when his wife, Susan, a stay-at-home mother, responded to a posting about my project. At the time, I had enough mothers participating but was still looking for fathers. ...
Four: “We Try Not to Encourage It, but I Know It Gets in There”: Refiners
Ben, a white, heterosexually partnered parent, is thirty-five years old and considers himself upper-middle class, an identification consistent with his luxurious home in a tree-lined neighborhood of similar houses. On the evening of our appointment, his wife was in the kitchen making tea and scones as we sat in the dining room ...
Five: “You Applaud All the Other Stuff”: Innovators
Anthony, a white, working-class, heterosexually partnered father of three who works as a sales representative, belongs in the group I classify as Innovators. His small, neat, and carefully maintained gray duplex, nestled close to its neighbors on a densely populated side street, was the site for our interview. ...
Six: “Surviving in a Gendered Culture”: Resisters
Resisters, numbering only five parents among all those interviewed, resembled Innovators in some ways but differed markedly in others. Like Innovators, Resisters reported resistant actions and also endorsed less gendered childhoods. They also shared a tendency to report relatively little action that reproduces gendered childhoods. ...
Conclusion: “A Better World”: Dismantling the Gender Trap
“Is that kid’s meal for a boy or a girl?” a cashier asked me at a fast-food restaurant. Why, I wondered, were chicken nuggets different for boys and girls? Of course, it was not the food but the free toy that came with the meal that was intended for a boy or girl. ...
Appendix: Research Methods
About the Author
Page Count: 272
Publication Year: 2012
OCLC Number: 826999856
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